How to Feel Deeply Connected in Your Relationships

There are days where I feel super connected to the relationships in my life and there are days where I can feel really distant. 

Even with my husband, who I live with; connection is an ever evolving feeling. 

I have found the more I share openly in my relationships whether it is with my husband, friends, family; the more I feel connected and close with them. I have shared this before - “withholding ends relationships.” It creates distance each time we push down or suppress something that we actually really want to share. 

Growing up I was conditioned to not share too much of what I am thinking or feeling - it definitely did not feel safe to be vulnerable and honest with others. I was supposed to be the polite, easy going girl, not taking up too much space or saying the wrong thing. When I think about expressing what I am really feeling all my stories come up;

“What if they don’t like me after I share this? What if they judge me or get mad? What if he ends it? Or they don’t want to be my friend?” 

Being honest and trusting the other person is not easy and can feel so scary. It is a continuous reminder; If I want to feel a deep connection I need to be courageous, honest and trust. 

Vulnerability = connection.