How to Call in More of What We Desire
I know for me over a lot of my life, holidays, anniversaries, Birthdays - I often felt let down, or disappointed because it didn’t go as expected or my partner didn’t plan what I wanted.
Anyone relate?
Something that has been a game changer for my relationship, especially around special occasions/Holidays is taking ownership of the day - so what does that look like?
1.Get clear on what I want that day to look like;
Do I want to order in my favorite food, do I want to go out to eat, quality time unplugged, do I want flowers, or a specific gift or simply having the laundry and dishes done.
2. Plan and ask for it;
Not leaving it up to someone else to read our mind or know what we want - And then be let down, resentful, frustrated!!
Really communicating what we want and if your partner is not available for what you want or if you are celebrating on your own;
Take yourself on a date - get dressed up, get yourself flowers, wine and your favorite food - why do we need to wait for someone else to celebrate us or do something special.
You can also plan a zoom gathering with some girlfriends get dressed up together or do a watch party of a favorite rom com movie on Amazon
I had a client recently try this for her Birthday and she shared it was one of her best Birthdays, not because she did all these BIG things, but she really created a day she wanted and her husband was also so relieved he could do what she wanted and make her happy.
SO if you have a Birthday or Holiday coming up - I’d love to hear what you’d love for these days?!