Building Purpose in Your Relationships

One belief I’ve really had to look at is; Growing up I thought - find the partner and happily ever after. That a relationship should be easy, that there is this perfect person out there that will make me feel so much better about myself and fill me up.

What I have found in my own journey and working with womxn all over the world - relationships take  a lot of work. Daily commitment. It can feel messy, and triggering and hard and at moments wanting to give up. 

One thing I want to keep bringing to light is; it’s ok if there are days it feels hard, it’s ok to feel triggered by our partners. 

The more we can bring awareness around these beliefs we have in our relationships and what they “should” look like, we can open up to what else is possible. It takes a lot of pressure off, that something is “wrong” with us. 

A new belief that has radically changed how I look at my relationship with my husband;
“What is here for me to heal, learn and grow from?” 

This is a very different perspective than he is here to fix me, to make it easy, to be my prince charming. 

I can say if I did not have a relationship that challenged me in moments; I would not be the woman I am today. Sometimes it takes me time to see how this is for my growth, but when I do I see the deeper purpose of our relationship.